Happy Fourth of July!

USA flag and skyWe have displayed an American flag in our front yard since September 11, 2001. We’ve maintained American flags on the front of one of our businesses since 1994. We live in a quaint little town that actually has a flag shop.

Until today, I have never really thought much about what goes into the care and maintenance of a flag, since mostly that falls into Mr. Rinaldi’s scope of practice around the house.

After doing some research I found a few tips and pointers for you if you decide you to want to display the stars and stripes where you live.

Proper display: A flagpole, attached to a wall, taped over a window – any of these are appropriate. For cars, trains, boats, or your garden decor, red white and blue bunting is appropriate.

Time for display: Inside they may be left up all the time. Outside it should come down at sunset folded neatly and put away safely, or you may choose to light it in which case you can leave it up all night.

Care: You may provide small repairs or for fabric flags that are dirty you may dry clean. However if frayed along the edges or faded it’s time to replace it.

Retirement: It is never appropriate to throw a flag in the garbage. Despite protesters burning our nation’s flag as a sign of disrespect, the appropriate way to retire a flag is to burn it in private with respect.

So join us in displaying Old Glory at your home or business – not just today but every day.

Laissez Les Bon Temps Rouler (Let the Good Times Roll)

j0384906I love all things sparkly and Mardi Gras is all about sparkle and glitter and feathers and beads!  Mardi Gras is the celebration of Fat Tuesday, the day before Ash Wednesday and the beginning of the Lenten Season for Catholics.  It is the last day of Carnival and revelry before the season of penance begins.  No Mardi Gras is complete without the King Cake.  You may want to try this one.

Recipe: King Cake

Ingredients:

PASTRY
1 cup milk
1/4 cup butter
2 (.25 ounce) packages active dry yeast
2/3 cup warm water (110 degrees F/45 degrees C)
1/2 cup sugar
2 eggs
1 1/2 teaspoons salt
1/2 teaspoon freshly grated nutmeg
5 1/2 cups all-purpose flour

FILLING
1 cup packed brown sugar
1 tablespoon ground cinnamon
2/3 cup chopped pecans
1/2 cup all-purpose flour
1/2 cup raisins
1/2 cup melted butter

FROSTING
1 cup confectioners’ sugar
1 tablespoon water
colored sugar in green, yellow and purple 

Directions:

1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C). Grease 2 cookie sheets or line with parchment paper.

2. Scald milk, remove from heat and stir in 1/4 cup of butter. Allow mixture to cool to room temperature. In a large bowl, dissolve yeast in the warm water with 1 tablespoon of the white sugar. Let stand until creamy, about 10 minutes.

3. When yeast mixture is bubbling, add the cooled milk mixture. Whisk in the eggs. Stir in the remaining white sugar, salt and nutmeg. Beat the flour into the milk/egg mixture 1 cup at a time. When the dough has pulled together, turn it out onto a lightly floured surface and knead until smooth and elastic, about 8 to 10 minutes.

4. Lightly oil a large bowl, place the dough in the bowl and turn to coat with oil. Cover with a damp cloth or plastic wrap and let rise in a warm place until doubled in volume, about 2 hours. When risen, punch down and divide dough in half.

5. For filling, combine the brown sugar, ground cinnamon, chopped pecans, 1/2 cup flour and 1/2 cup raisins. Pour 1/2 cup melted butter over the cinnamon mixture and mix until crumbly.

6. Roll dough halves out into large rectangles (approximately 10×16 inches or so). Sprinkle the filling evenly over the dough and roll up each half tightly like a jelly roll, beginning at the wide side. Bring the ends of each roll together to form 2 oval shaped rings. Place each ring on a prepared cookie sheet. With scissors make cuts 1/3 of the way through the rings at 1 inch intervals. Let rise in a warm spot until doubled in size, about 45 minutes.

7. Bake in preheated oven for 30 minutes. Push the doll into the bottom of the cake. Frost while warm with the confectioners’ sugar blended with 1 to 2 tablespoons of water. Sprinkle with colored sugar crystals and ENJOY!

All About Intentions

Last year on day 7 of a 28-day Reiki intentions exercise, I realized that sometimes the universe really does ask, “How much do you want this?” 

So while putting my attention and intentions toward making improvements in my life, here were some of the challenges I encountered that week:

1. A piece of jewelry I wear nearly every day and has tremendous sentimental value went missing. It ultimately turned up, but only after I had been through the emotional wringer of not being sure I’d ever see it again. Surprisingly, some inner work came up that I thought was completely resolved in my world, and it sounded like this: YOU DON’T DESERVE NICE THINGS, THIS IS WHY YOU CAN’T HAVE NICE THINGS. That’s what the shit-flinging monkey who occasionally resides in my head kept repeating over and over as I frantically searched for my necklace. Logically, I knew the words were not true. Emotionally, I was beating myself up for having lost something that was important to me. This gave me the opportunity to be kinder to myself throughout the week as an exercise. Kindness.

2. My newish computer crashed. Three days out of warranty. Blue screen of death, operating system failure. This gave me the opportunity to be grateful for the other two computers that I do have (and the roughly 15 others I have had in the last 20 years) that haven’t given me a single lick of trouble. Gratitude.

3. A security guard fell asleep behind the wheel and managed to hit the only vehicle parked on the block: mine. While I am grateful that it was handled appropriately, I chose to find the humor in this. One. Freaking. Car. Mine. And he hit it. It is kind of funny, years ago I learned you can get pissed off and write the check or you can laugh and write the check – ultimately you’re still writing the check. So I find humor. Laughter.

Law of Attraction

Working with manifesting and intentions doesn’t magically make all of the challenges in life disappear – they exist, they are there, you can’t ignore them. What it does is it makes you change your perspective. You can’t work to improve your life if you’re focusing on what’s wrong with your life. So start to see what’s right with each circumstance or how you can improve it with a perspective shift.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Dr. Wayne Dyer 

Tell me how your intentions are going.

Happy Thanksgiving!

I had the opportunity to go to Ohio a few weeks ago during the height of fall color. There were moments it simply took my breath away.

Ohio Fall Color 2015

On my return to Los Angeles I was welcomed home to 90° heat with Santa Ana winds – our special SoCal version of fall.

I’ve always loved living in Southern California. We have the beaches, the mountains, and Disneyland all within a short drive. I often forget the beauty of nature that surrounds me. And while I do get to travel a fair amount for my business and for leisure, it’s a rare occurrence to actually get me “outdoors” beyond my garden. I do love my climate-controlled indoor environments.

As I sit here writing this and reflecting on the time I had last month experiencing nature in all its glory and change, it occurred to me it was one more thing I have experienced that I have to be thankful for – the ability to access and explore the vast open spaces the United States offers. We have access to these open spaces through parks and preserves; from local municipal to great national treasures.

I would like to suggest this Thanksgiving, rather than queuing up for your 5 a.m. retail fix (or, God forbid, actually going out shopping on Thanksgiving day), that you and your family spend some time outdoors. Connect with nature. I know I’ll be doing just that.

Lessons in Making Your Life (and the Lives of People around You) Easier

Mind your manners, people.

I could leave it at that, but nope, here I go.

Stop SignWHAT TO STOP

  • Behaving as if you are the only one who matters in the world
  • Living in a virtual world and neglecting your “real” friends and family
  • Being late
  • Being dishonest
  • Pushing your agenda on others
  • Being unkind
  • Being selfish
  • Neglecting to invest in your community
  • Being a downer
  • And for goodness sake stop playing the victim card

These are just a few of my pet peeves at the moment. If you really want to make a difference in the world, begin with your little patch of earth and see if you can effect positive change in others – not through your words but through your actions.

So what can you do? (Glad you asked.)

WHAT TO START

  • Taking care of your needs (eat, rest and move), turning off the TV/computer/cell phone and connecting with the people around you
  • Valuing other people’s time as much as your own
  • Being truthful with everyone – especially yourself
  • Releasing the need to judge others – you do not know their path
  • Giving to others and giving to yourself generously; whether of your time or your resources, giving helps you connect with other people
  • Contributing and find a cause greater than yourself – someone or something that needs you more
  • Being more positive and, for goodness sake, whatever you’ve been through, you’re here now; that doesn’t make you a victim in my book – that makes you a survivor. Own it and you can change it.

Why Coaching Is So Important

I say our thoughts create our beliefs, our beliefs create our behaviors, our behaviors create the world around us.

The thing about behaviors is that we bring our past to them until we learn a different perspective. We do what we’ve always done. It may not be what you want, it may not be what we like, but it is what we know. So it is what we do.

I have a simple reminder that keeps me humble enough to know when it’s time for me to find another coach and work on something I’m having trouble with.

517568C – ’cause
O – our
A – attitude
C – controls
H – how we
I – implement
N – new
G – growth

 

When I find myself with a less-than-stellar attitude about something, it’s because I’m uncomfortable. I realize I need a new perspective or a tool to help me implement the new growth I’m facing.

Think about that the next time you’re faced with new growth.

Remembering Wayne Dyer – That Scurvy Elephant!

Many years ago while watching PBS I met and fell in love with a man who inspired me to many things – one of them was to be a “scurvy elephant.”

In the 20 or so years since I discovered Wayne Dyer‘s work, I witnessed his conversation go from behaviorally focused to Pure Spirit. Pure Light. Pure Love. He took me with him, as he took so many others.

I was lucky enough to have seen him lecture live nearly a dozen times. I got to shake his hand and on one occasion even give him a hug.

He often told a story of being called a “scurvy elephant” as a child. He came home from school one day and asked his foster mother, “What’s a scurvy elephant?” She told him she’d never heard of one and asked where he’d heard it. “From my teacher; she said I was a scurvy elephant.” Bewildered, his mother called the teacher and asked what she had meant. The teacher responded, “As usual Wayne got it wrong. I didn’t say he was a scurvy elephant; I said he was a disturbing element!”

Wayne Dyer taught through storytelling and wove some of the best metaphors for the purpose of change. He looked at and approached things differently than many of us would. He was a disturbing element to me as I transitioned from my pain to my purpose. He showed me it was OK to be vulnerable, to make mistakes, to grow from exactly where you think you’re stuck.Outlined cheerful elephant

Wayne Dyer made his transition one month ago, on August 30, and will be influencing us from the place we all return to. He is greatly missed. My prayers of peace continue to go out to his family, friends and the world he influenced.

Here’s to the greatest Scurvy Elephant ever.

Where Were You On 9/11?

Downtown New York CityThanksgiving weekend of 2000, Rick and I were driving back from Las Vegas. While staring out the passenger side window I became entranced by the desert scenery. It was during that period that I channeled the following message:

The following year will be the worst year we ever face, personally. Before the year is over we will have lost one of our fathers. We will be tested on faith in ways we can’t comprehend.

While channeling was not something that was new to me, Rick had never been present for a channeling before this. He asked why I would say such a thing. I asked him what I had said, and he carefully repeated each of my words. While those words shook me, I understood that if I was being told this information, it was because there was something I could do about it.

Fast-forward to summer of 2001. I would frequently wake up in the middle of the night and research the atrocities against women and others that various terrorist factions who called themselves followers of Islam were perpetrating throughout the world. It hurt my heart greatly. Yet I couldn’t stop. I was compelled to read as much as I could. To try to understand.

Labor Day weekend 2001, 2 p.m. on a Friday, Rick calls me at work to tell me his father is receiving last rites in the high desert. His family was being called together to support each other during this period. He had no intention of making the drive (for those of you who understand … this was over the Cajon Pass on the Friday of the holiday weekend) – so I was home in 20 minutes and we were on the road in 40. While sitting in that parking lot they sometimes call the 15 Freeway, my father called.

He wanted to inform me that he had gone off his chemo meds nearly a year before, he was tired, he didn’t want to take any more meds – we were going to go see the oncologist on Tuesday, together. According to him, he “didn’t want me to lose my shit” when we were there. Also, he had decided he wanted to live. I remember being so angry, so hurt, so confused. I remember lashing out and telling him he may have taken that option off the table. Telling him we were on our way to Frank’s bedside, where he was receiving last rites.

Tuesday, September 11, approximately 6:30 a.m. PT, my father calls me and tells me to turn on the television. He tells me that life as we know it will never be the same. He’s crying. I watch in stunned silence for about five minutes. I tell him I’ll call him back. I knock on the bathroom door, where Rick is in the shower. I step into the bathroom. I can’t even articulate what has happened. I’m crying. I tell him to get out of the shower, get dressed. Come downstairs and watch what has happened. All I can say is it’s terrible, you have to see it. I can’t even begin to explain it.

We spend the next several hours on the phone with friends, family, work – comparing notes. Comparing feelings. Sharing comfort and terror.

Our worlds changed in an instant.

September 11 is five days before my birthday. There are things I do every year – Disneyland, Knott’s Berry Farm, the Los Angeles County Fair. We went to each of these public venues and experienced an outpouring of human connection from those who ventured out in public. We had been warned that high-profile public locations were probably not safe at this time, but I needed the routine. I needed to be around other people. We shared meals with strangers. We embraced. We held hands. We cried on each other’s shoulders. We shared comfort and terror.

Rick lit a candle that morning. For five years he kept a candle burning on our hearth – 24/7. In remembrance. In honor. As a silent tribute and plea to God, the universe, our Angels and anyone else who would listen. A plea for peace. A plea for healing.

He erected a 10-foot flagpole in our front yard – an American flag has hung every day for 14 years, a memorial to our country and our first responders.

Rick’s father passed September 30, 2011. I remember thinking, “perhaps he’ll understand why this horrible thing happened.” I look back and know I was given the information not because I could change anything, but because I could prepare myself. I could find a place from which to dig deep in order to hold that place of peace for others.

Today is the 14th anniversary of that day that changed our lives. I remember where I was. I remember what led up to it. I know what has changed in my life.

Lessons in Manifesting, Intentions and Law Attraction

positive thinking conceptAre you tired of living in a state of lack and want? Do you think you know about the Law of Attraction and yet, you just can’t make the shift in your life? Are you unable to manifest what you need in life: Love? Money? Peace? Security? Consistently? Has “This Economy” left you with some serious opportunities for growth?

Are you ready to receive?

Or have you found that no matter what you do you just can’t seem to make things happen for you? I have to tell you I was at this place in my own way many years ago. It was these very tools that I want to share with you. If you can begin to use them in your own home with your own family, you’ll find that so much will change for you.

Are you ready to change?

Well here’s your opportunity. Email customerservice@kimberlyrinaldi.com with “Intentions” in the subject line and I’ll happily send you a copy of the intentions practice I use weekly. Whether looking at law of attraction, universal laws or creative consciousness there are some basic tools to put in place – and I’ll provide you with them to kick start your manifesting abilities.

Previously: How to use the language of intention

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Are You Ready to Quit Smoking?

Woman Breaking CigaretteMy name is Kimberly and I was once a two-pack-a-day smoker.

That is actually how I came to hypnotherapy over 20 years ago.

I was a two-pack-a-day smoker and had no conscious desire to quit. My parents were going to see a hypnotherapist for smoking cessation as my father had serious health issues and needed to quit his habit immediately. I went for two reasons: first, they asked for my support, and second, they were paying for it. I went into the sessions thinking I would go along for the ride and just smoke when I wasn’t with them.

Well, the short story is this: I left there and carried a pack of cigarettes for a year along with the thought, “I know I’m going to want one of these soon.”  After one year I tossed that last pack of unopened cigarettes and finally admitted I was a non-smoker.  Mom and Dad quit just as easily.

I could rehash the health-related reasons to quit, but you already know them. From the changes in your ability to taste and smell food to more serious issues of heart or lung disease, even cancer, you have heard them all. You have probably been asked by loved ones to consider them in your decision as well.

You always have choices. You chose to start smoking. Up till now you have chosen to continue smoking. You could choose to keep right on smoking or you could choose to quit. If you choose to quit you could try cold-turkey, nicotine gum, a patch, a pill, or hypnosis. Perhaps you could even choose a combination of these methods. The choice is yours. When you are ready to make a new choice, I can help. I am so confident in how well hypnotherapy works in smoking cessation, I offer a program with a lifetime guarantee.

Why Hypnosis?

Those who quit smoking have a 90.6% success rate using hypnosis. Of 43 consecutive patients undergoing this treatment protocol, 39 reported remaining abstinent at follow-up (6 months to 3 years post treatment). This represents a 90.6% success rate in using hypnosis.

Hypnosis is the most effective tool. Hypnosis is the most effective way of giving up smoking, according to the largest ever scientific comparison of ways of breaking the habit, combining results of more than 600 studies of 72,000 people from America and Europe to compare various methods of quitting. On average, hypnosis was over three times more effective than nicotine replacement and 15 times more effective than trying to quit alone.

So when you’re ready, ask for help. I’ve been there and I know what it takes.

Try my Smoke Free for Life Hypnosis mp3 for half off the regular price.

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