I Want My Own Business, But Where Do I Start?

Start own businessThere are three ways you can start your own business.

  1. Purchase established
  2. Purchase a franchise
  3. Launch your own

I’m only going to focus on one today: launching your own business, or creating a brand.

Challenge + Opportunity = Brand

You have to first determine what it is people need. Because if you have a desire to make fluffy pretty widgets and no one out there is clamoring for a fluffy pretty widget, the path to success will elude you.

So look around, ask, think about what it is that you need in your life, determine where there is a challenge seeking a solution.

Your opportunity is how you resolve that challenge. There are millions of coaches out there right now. My clients come to me because I offer something different. That “something different” is my brand. It’s Lessons in Joyful Living. I help clients reach their healing goals in a very short period of time compared to other methodologies. Literally hours versus weeks, months or even years while working with some of the more traditional methods.

What do you do?

Where Were You On 9/11?

Downtown New York CityThanksgiving weekend of 2000, Rick and I were driving back from Las Vegas. While staring out the passenger side window I became entranced by the desert scenery. It was during that period that I channeled the following message:

The following year will be the worst year we ever face, personally. Before the year is over we will have lost one of our fathers. We will be tested on faith in ways we can’t comprehend.

While channeling was not something that was new to me, Rick had never been present for a channeling before this. He asked why I would say such a thing. I asked him what I had said, and he carefully repeated each of my words. While those words shook me, I understood that if I was being told this information, it was because there was something I could do about it.

Fast-forward to summer of 2001. I would frequently wake up in the middle of the night and research the atrocities against women and others that various terrorist factions who called themselves followers of Islam were perpetrating throughout the world. It hurt my heart greatly. Yet I couldn’t stop. I was compelled to read as much as I could. To try to understand.

Labor Day weekend 2001, 2 p.m. on a Friday, Rick calls me at work to tell me his father is receiving last rites in the high desert. His family was being called together to support each other during this period. He had no intention of making the drive (for those of you who understand … this was over the Cajon Pass on the Friday of the holiday weekend) – so I was home in 20 minutes and we were on the road in 40. While sitting in that parking lot they sometimes call the 15 Freeway, my father called.

He wanted to inform me that he had gone off his chemo meds nearly a year before, he was tired, he didn’t want to take any more meds – we were going to go see the oncologist on Tuesday, together. According to him, he “didn’t want me to lose my shit” when we were there. Also, he had decided he wanted to live. I remember being so angry, so hurt, so confused. I remember lashing out and telling him he may have taken that option off the table. Telling him we were on our way to Frank’s bedside, where he was receiving last rites.

Tuesday, September 11, approximately 6:30 a.m. PT, my father calls me and tells me to turn on the television. He tells me that life as we know it will never be the same. He’s crying. I watch in stunned silence for about five minutes. I tell him I’ll call him back. I knock on the bathroom door, where Rick is in the shower. I step into the bathroom. I can’t even articulate what has happened. I’m crying. I tell him to get out of the shower, get dressed. Come downstairs and watch what has happened. All I can say is it’s terrible, you have to see it. I can’t even begin to explain it.

We spend the next several hours on the phone with friends, family, work – comparing notes. Comparing feelings. Sharing comfort and terror.

Our worlds changed in an instant.

September 11 is five days before my birthday. There are things I do every year – Disneyland, Knott’s Berry Farm, the Los Angeles County Fair. We went to each of these public venues and experienced an outpouring of human connection from those who ventured out in public. We had been warned that high-profile public locations were probably not safe at this time, but I needed the routine. I needed to be around other people. We shared meals with strangers. We embraced. We held hands. We cried on each other’s shoulders. We shared comfort and terror.

Rick lit a candle that morning. For five years he kept a candle burning on our hearth – 24/7. In remembrance. In honor. As a silent tribute and plea to God, the universe, our Angels and anyone else who would listen. A plea for peace. A plea for healing.

He erected a 10-foot flagpole in our front yard – an American flag has hung every day for 14 years, a memorial to our country and our first responders.

Rick’s father passed September 30, 2011. I remember thinking, “perhaps he’ll understand why this horrible thing happened.” I look back and know I was given the information not because I could change anything, but because I could prepare myself. I could find a place from which to dig deep in order to hold that place of peace for others.

Today is the 14th anniversary of that day that changed our lives. I remember where I was. I remember what led up to it. I know what has changed in my life.

The History Behind “I’m Free”

Guest Post By ERIKA KIND

The history behind “I’m Free – Awareness of Who You Are by Discovering Who You Are Not!”

DSC_9289I am the first of three girls in my family. When I was a child and teenager I was taught that I had to get strong: don’t show weakness, don’t cry, bring arguments, stand tall, don’t fail, show results. At least I took this belief over. It was my personality. But I was afraid not to fulfill these expectations in order to not be punished or humiliated. I buried the real Erika since over time she was in my way in order to develop the expected personality. I played a role of which I thought had to be my real me. Over time I did not know who the real me was. I only felt that in certain situations there was something tearing me apart. My heart and mind where fighting a war.

I had no self-esteem since I always checked the opinion of others (important persons in my life) first before I said something. When I was asked or questioned about my opinion I did not know what to say and felt totally embarrassed and lost. That way I said less and less, but inside the frustration grew. My insecurity made me develop lots of fears and I felt myself under permanent pressure to meet the expectations of my surrounding. I started to read books, join seminars and lectures about self-development in order to find out more about myself. One day it was simply too much. I was asking myself: Do you want to live a life which is not yours or do you finally want to stand up and explore your possibilities? I hit rock bottom and therefore knew I couldn’t fall any deeper. I started to embed all I learned and risked complete confusion since everything started to change around me. My husband and I went through a serious crises which almost killed our relationship and therefore our marriage.

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Feeling Stuck? Try Some Emotional Therapy Using N.E.T.

Guest Post By Michelle S. Lim, D.C.

“Our emotional reality affects the physiology of our body.”

Whether we are conscious of it or not, we all have conditioned reflexes that we’ve acquired in life. Much of these reflexes are necessary for survival and ensure the safety and well being of others. We hit the brakes when we see an animal on the road, we lift our hands up to protect us when we sense something is falling from above, and we pull our hands away when we feel a hot dish. These are all normal reactions that contribute to our well-being, but what happens when we have deep seated emotional responses that no longer serve us?

A classic example would be a soldier who has returned home from war. Although he is safe and sound in his downtown San Diego neighborhood, the sound of a helicopter flying overhead might trigger his limbic system, dragging along old memories, making him think he was in combat again. He might drop down on the floor and instinctively look for a gun that is not there. His pulse will beat hard, his breaths even faster, while his blood pressure goes through the roof, anticipating the worst. Obviously, this is a dramatic example of what we know as PTSD, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

You see, in the emotional brain (the limbic system), time doesn’t exist. Due to the fact that emotions don’t have a linear sense of time, but rather, can effortlessly weave in and out of the past, we may be carrying around emotions that unknowingly dictate our lives. Much like the veteran who’s safe and sound in his home town but still gets a sympathetic flight or fight response every time he hears a loud noise, we may be soldiers of our past, carrying around fears, burdens, anger, resentment, sadness or paralyzed will, unwillingly creating a mental block or emotional prison.

When the emotional aspect of the brain takes over, superceding all rational and logical thought processes, this is called neurological hijacking. The limbic system takes control and as intelligent as we may be, we become immune to our responses because this is how we’ve always known it to be.

From the very first moment we encountered a not so favored situation, we’ve developed a way to cope with the problem and continue to use that emotional response time after time, much like an automated message. We’ve trained ourselves to “feel” a certain way regardless of how different the situation is. If it “feels” like a situation we’ve been in before, we already have a preset reaction to deal with it.

As I mentioned earlier, there are many times when our learned responses serve us well and ensure our survival. But when it no longer serves us, like the veteran who’s returned home, then we need to retrain our neo-cortex to think differently and be “ok” with whatever’s happening.

Research has already proven that stress causes negative physiologic reaction to the body and science has shown that people under stress are more susceptible to getting ill and are slower to recover compared to those who aren’t under any perceived stress. Whether real or perceived, stress directly affects the nervous system, which has a great impact on the immune system.

We are capable of measuring the physiologic effects of stress through monitoring heart rate, monitoring the respiratory system, assessing pulse rate, a Galvanic skin response, a polygraph test and muscle testing.


N.E.T. stands for Neuro Emotional Technique used by many health practitioners, Chiropractors, Naturopaths, M.D.s, Psychologists and MFTPs alike, who are in favor of holistic and conservative techniques.

Through muscle testing, N.E.T. is a mind-body technique that uses a methodology of finding and removing neurological imbalances related to the physiology of unresolved stress. N.E.T. is a tool that can help improve many behavioral and physical conditions.


N.E.T. Practitioners are nearly unlimited in their ability to address the physical and behavioral stress-related conditions of their patients. These conditions include headaches, body pains, phobias, general anxiety, self-sabotaging behaviors, organ dysfunctions and so much more. It’s important to note that N.E.T. does not cure or heal the patient, but rather, N.E.T. removes blocks to the natural vitalism of the body, “allowing” the body to repair itself naturally.

N.E.T. has more than a 60% success rate in treating PTSD and is currently approved by the government as a conservative and cost-effective treatment for soldiers returning home.

To learn more, visit NETmindbody.com.

Dr. Lim utilizes the NET technique in her practice. Call (562) 920-6644 for consultation.

– Dr. Michelle S. Lim, D.C.

Lessons in Rocks, Stones and Crystals: Enhydro Agate

photoWhile spending an afternoon in Cambria, California, over my birthday week, we wandered into a little rock, gem and crystal store – Planet Yachats. I have teased Mr. Rinaldi for years about his affinity for rock and dirt stores (his being construction related) and yet I have my own affinity for rocks, stones, gems, and crystals (mine being for metaphysical qualities – and just being pretty.)

I’m on one side of the store admiring some beautiful pieces of amber when Mr. Rinaldi approaches, pulls my hand out, and plops into the center of my hand a small piece of petrified wood. With all the excitement and enthusiasm of child, he asks, “What do you feel holding that? Do you feel the vibration? You have to buy this for me!”

This was a conversation I never thought I would have with him. But with that as an opening, I decided we would wander the store a bit longer and explore other vibrational connections. Together we looked at crystal skulls, crystal balls, Merkabas, and several other pieces. The ones we kept going back to – and ultimately both had to buy two of – were enhydro agates.

He was fascinated by the prospect of ancient waters trapped within the stones. I was enamored of their beauty and the wobbly feeling from shaking it to hear the water.

About Enhydro

Enhydro crystals and agates have water trapped within them. They were formed millions of years ago and hold these ancient waters. Some you can see (crystals typically), others you can feel or hear (our agates for example).

These are typically very rare specimens as they don’t travel well. Extremes in temperatures can cause the stones to fracture, reabsorb the water or even explode. Rough handling can also cause them to fracture or crack open.

Special Features

  • Agates are said to attract strength and are used as protection from bad dreams, stress and energy loss.
  • Ancients used them to ward off storms.
  • Healing properties associated with agate include stomach upsets, acceptance of difficult emotions and assistance in making important decisions.
  • Enhydros’ qualities make it a stone of empathy. They help you recognize and understand the feelings of others; it’s a great stone for those who work in any coaching or counseling capacity.
  • Helps us to know we are more than what we believe.
  • Aids in accepting responsibility.
  • An excellent crystal/stone for manifestation work.
  • Healing properties associated with Enhydro include treating conditions of degraded tissue and organs and bring in the body to the condition you are desirous of.




Lessons in Rocks, Stones, and Crystals: Prehnite

Mineral prehniteCan you have a favorite stone or crystal? Do you have a favorite child? Favorite parent? Okay, maybe you do. I’m not going to make you identify who they are. And when asked what my favorite stones or crystals are, know that I’m not being coy, because I really don’t have a favorite. I do have favored ones for certain periods in my life or particular purposes. And right now my favored ones are Prehnite – The Stone of Prophecy.

Prehnite occurs in a range of green colors, including pale green to dark green and yellow- to brown-green. Prehnite may also occur gray, blue, orange, white and colorless. A soft apple green color is the most desirable (and the one I have been using most in the past several weeks), while blue, pink, colorless, white and orange are considered the rarest occurrences and are highly sought after by mineral collectors.

Benefits of Prehnite:

  • Boosts prophetic abilities, aids work with cards and scrying. Also enhances visualization, astral projection and lucid dreaming while reducing nightmares. Considered a very powerful dream and meditation stone.
  • Believed to strengthen life force and energy; it is said to heal the healer.
  • Fosters belief in abundance and harnesses ability to manifest whatever is needed. Clears toxins and helps you develop boundaries, encourage composure, forgiveness and acceptance. Considered the stone of unconditional love, it is believed to connect the will and the heart
  • In traditional shamanic beliefs, prehnite is best used for stimulating the third eye chakra. Physically, prehnite is often used by crystal healers for treating and alleviating symptoms of gout, anemia, kidney disorders and thymus gland problems.
  • Revitalizes healing environment. Good for altar, offering bowl, gridding and medicine bag.




Lessons in Rocks, Stones, and Crystals: Citrine

citrine gemstones pieces isolatedCitrine is known as a “success stone.” It said that it helps to promote success and abundance, especially in business and commerce. It is the stone for taking care of business. It is also looked to for matters of education, legal issues, or family strife.

Citrine is also used to enhance mental clarity, confidence, happiness and willpower.

Additionally, Citrine is used in communication and carried by people who speak in public. It affords them courage and strengthens their communication skills.

Citrine is associated with the solar plexus chakra and helps to negate anxiety, fear and depression.

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How to Care for Your Crystals, Stones, or Rocks

gemstones with herbsFor years students and colleagues would approach me with something wrapped delicately in paper, linen, or bagged in gossamer. They would be so gentle with this item, their eyes nearly misting with love and connection. Their voice would drop to near whisper as they would offer to me, “Here, you have to feel this …”

Tenderly, I would take the rock, stone or crystal and hold it for a moment – eyes closed in quiet reflection, listening to the owner extol the virtues and vibration of this particular wonder of minerals.

And then very much like Charlie Brown in his Halloween special my response was always, “It’s a rock …” You see, I felt nothing. No vibration, no humming, no mystical, magical experience for me. Nothing.

That is until one day about 10 years ago, I was in a metaphysical store and happened to pick up a crystal; it sort of spoke to me. I’m not saying it said, “Kimberly, come over here, I need to talk to you.” I just felt a pull from it. So I picked it up. The only way I can describe it is that this crystal hums for me. A very high vibrational humming. And from that moment forward I’ve been able to pick up vibrations from rocks and crystals and other “inanimate” objects.

So, like all other tools, you have to understand rocks, crystals and stones amplify YOUR thoughts and feelings.  And during the time I couldn’t connect it was because that was where my energy was. Once connected, you’ll find they can be used as a focus for enhancing many aspects of your life. They can change the energy around you.

Like potato chips, you may start off with only one or two, but once you start collecting you’ll find that they serve different purposes or you just plain like how they look and feel – so you’ll keep collecting more.  You may find you have favorites. You can charge or dedicate specific ones to help you fulfill a particular purpose, like keeping your space grounded.  There are so many uses for them.

And when the time comes to clear them of their residual cosmic dust and debris you can do that too.

Here are some of my favorite ways to cleanse and clear a rock, stone, or crystal so that its energy serves you best.

  • Place it under cool running water
  • Leave it in sunlight and moonlight for a 24-hour period
  • Place it out during a full moon
  • Bury it in salt
  • Use sage, incense, or tobacco smoke to smudge it
  • Use Reiki energy on it
  • Meditate with it
  • Pray over it

You can improve the atmosphere in a room at home or in your workplace with gentle colored crystals in a place where there are challenges of energy such as personality clash or a need to improve positive energy. Just place them in a small dish and set your intentions over them.

Tell me about some of your experiences with rocks, stones and crystals. I’d love to hear about them.

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How to Use the Language of Intention

thoughtsWhen working on Manifesting, Intentions, and Law of Attraction, it’s imperative that you understand how powerful language is.

Clarity is so important when dealing with The Universe, your creative consciousness, prayer, or that cosmic Sears Roebuck catalog that fuels the outcome of your intentions.

Here are ways for you to use the Language of Intention:

Eliminate words such as trying, hoping, wanting, to be, will, going to, etc…  All of these words create a space that says, “Not Now,” or “At some obscure time in the future.” It says this is not important and it doesn’t matter when it happens. Instead, focus on words that are present tense: I am, I can, I have, I do. Much more powerful language creates much more powerful outcomes.

Eliminate negative placeholders. These are words such as not, don’t, won’t, can’t, shouldn’t, etc… “Not” is not recognized. So if you say “I don’t want to be alone,” what you’re really telling the universe is “I don’t want to be alone.”  See what I mean by it being a negative placeholder? The more powerful language you can use is to tell us what you do want.

Don’t name illness or limitation. Again, we see things in the perfection that we desire. My standard is: I am happy, healthy and whole.

State things in a positive manner. Instead of saying “I intend that I’m not afraid anymore,” we would say “I intend that I am courageous.” Positive thoughts bring positive experiences; negative thoughts bring negative experiences.

So the next time you’re faced with a life challenge and want to make a change, remember your thoughts, remember your words.

What is the most recent good thing you’ve attracted to your life? It can be as simple as a good parking spot, or as big as a new career.

Share your successes in the comments.

Ever Wanted to Be a Healer?

Outstretched healing handsIf you’ve ever wanted to take control of your own health, or been inspired to consider becoming a healer, then Reiki might be the answer for you.

One of the unique features about Reiki is that anyone and everyone can practice it once attuned. You simply take a Reiki I class and, upon completion and once you’ve received your attunement, you are considered a Reiki practitioner. You then have the ability to take on clients and even begin your own practice if that’s what you choose to do.

If you choose to go on to Reiki II, you will learn the symbols to help yourself and others heal from emotional and past-life issues as well as learning to send Reiki energy through distance healing.

One of the challenges I’ve seen over the years is that many programs require two full eight hour days for each level (16 total hours) and a waiting period of 30 to 90 days before you can receive both your Reiki I and II attunement. As adults, our time is valuable. I offer a live program that certifies you in between six and eight hours for both Reiki I and Reiki II.

The Reiki Master/Teacher is a practitioner who has studied extensively with the intent of training others in passing on attunement.

Again, another challenge here is that many programs require you to take up to a year to attain this status. If Reiki interests you and you don’t want to wait, contact our office; we have in-person and distance training programs that save you 75% of the classroom and wait time that other programs spend.

Call us for more information 888-916-4569

or email info@KimberlyRinaldi.com.

Or train from home!