I have said it before and I’ll say it again: “Thoughts are powerful, words are spells.”
And there is nothing mystical or metaphysical about this statement. Our conscious mind is the “Goal Setter” and our creative conscious is the “Goal Getter.”
Not sure how this works? Let’s start with our Creative Conscious. Some people call this their sub- or un-conscious mind. I prefer the Creative Conscious for a couple of reasons. First, there is nothing unconscious about it; it is collecting thousands of bits of information every second and recording it — from the temperature of the air on your skin to the feel of the waistband on your underwear (bet you are aware of the underwear now if you weren’t before). Second, it will work to create what you think or say; it will find a way to make things happen.
So if this is the case, why can’t someone just say, “I am not going to (smoke, drink, overeat, get into another bad relationship, etc.) again” and be done with it? If you’ve read or watched “The Secret,” you understand the Universe doesn’t recognize negatives (not, don’t, won’t, can’t, etc.) The same goes for your Creative Conscious mind.
My favorite example for this is to have students try this exercise:
Take a moment and clear your thoughts. Then do your best, try your hardest to, at all cost, not think of a tart yellow lemon.
So did you experience the thought, smell, memory, visual representation, taste or did your mouth just water? You have to CREATE to NEGATE. That is why you have to be so careful with your choice of words. You need to focus on what you want, avoiding what you don’t want.
Unfortunately, our histories often color the value of our thoughts and we apply meanings that no longer serve us. We become great at knowing what we don’t want, but do we really know what we do want?
So how do you change it? Simply change your thoughts. There are many ways to do this; you can use EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), NLP (Neuro Lynguistic Programming), Hypnosis, or Conscious Effort — just to name a few.
Try being conscious of what you are thinking and see where it takes you.